WHO AM I?
To me, this really sums up the feelings of pain, fear and contraction, mostly experienced around change. We all go through something and it can be tough, painful, isolating, seemingly hopeless, helpless even, until it isn’t.
We also all need someone to speak with, share, confide in and look at it with. And sometimes we need more than a friend… If you want to look at a situation intelligently with me, to make clear and clarify, confirming your choices. I warmly invite you to.
No need to be tied up in knots, no need to remain tight in a bud, let me help you blossom.
MY MANY ROLES ARE:
A woman who’s a single mum, grandmum, girlfriend, sister and professionally, a life coach, marketer and copywriter.
And I’m an inside the box, outside the box kinda gal…
If you’re wondering what that means; I am a constant enquirer of life, a willing traveller of the self, psychologically, physiologically, physically and metaphysically. I explore what is inside the box – the seeming story, and then again I look at outside of the box – the unseen, bigger picture. I have collated a good understanding and experience of human nature that I have been harnessing for over 30 years:
I’ve been a managing director of a natural health company, a writer for a healthy eating TV celebrity, an employer, employee, marketing manager, deputy manager in a care home and a support worker in a children’s home.
I was brought up within a dysfunctional family dynamic, really didn’t have a good childhood. I have raised two boys on my own, been in both gay and straight relationships, lost my younger brother a few years ago and have had my heart broken several times over. I have experienced homelessness, money, no money and bankruptcy.
I wouldn’t swap a thing! I have had the most perfect and colourful life bringing me to this point of who I am today, even though it has stung like a wasp at times!
Do you remember a juncture in your life where you might say ‘I woke up’?
I was about 26 when that happened to me, beautifully synchronised with the arrival of ‘The Celestine Prophecy’, If you remember that book?
Long story short, my life changed massively from that point. My brother broke his neck and was severely paralysed, I had my second son, I left my second husband for a woman; became homeless when that didn’t work out. Realised at that point that I had ‘issues’, and promptly began my own journey of healing and personal development…
After years of having my own counselling, I studied and gained an RSA in Counselling. I went on to qualify as a professional life coach in 1999. Since then I have achieved other varying qualifications such as a Level 5 Diploma in Leadership for Health and Social Care and Children and Young People’s Services, a Diploma in Psychology of Relationships and things like that if it interests you to know.
It is more important to know…
That I have experienced fear, feeling contracted, less than, broken, hurt, homeless, skint, bankrupt, divorced, a single parent, sexually-orientated confused, lonely, isolated, affected by the death and heartbroken. All feelings and situations that every one of us can and probably will experience. Life does not escape any of us, me included!
What I have really learnt is – it’s not so much what the story is, but how it’s navigated…
We can either look intelligently at what is going on and what the choices are, or do the poor me which is also a choice.
(Oh, I have done both believe me!)
WHAT I DO & WHY
I know from my own tried and tested experience that when something is wrong, not working out, displaced or as just flat as a witch’s tit, for some reason we do nothing about the situation.
What is that about? Why choose not to be happy?
Which essentially is what you are agreeing to if undealt with. It took me a while too, to push through the immediate barriers of human nature. Blockages like fear, laziness or wanting the situation to change without making a change can all smother happiness.
But then nothing changes, and you feel worse!
Beginning is easier than you might think. Just actively want to do something about it.
Are you ready to say yes to life & be curious?
Be curious about the situation you find yourself in. Where am I, what am I doing, why am I doing it? Is it true? Simple, clear yet fundamental questions. Whilst you may believe that you have already thought of everything, you don’t know what you don’t know! Together we embark on a journey of discovery, seeking clarity and understanding, embracing change and maybe even dropping a few old beliefs and patterns that are not serving you. This clears the path for your intelligent choices moving forwards.
If you are ready and willing to surrender to a process that can only enhance you, reveal more of you, confirm you and promote you, we’re in for an exciting ride!